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hollie8452 wrote:
do i have to say anymore?! SOOOOOO annoying! my partner and i have had so many issues in th past with him being a self absorbed, selfish prick, so much so that we dont live together anymore but were still hoping to make it work out somehow (we've got two girls ho are 1 and 3 and we do actually love each other). lately hes been saying how much he misses us and wants to move back in to make it work. well now i find out that the only reason he wants t move back in is because he has been sleeping with one of his friend from work (whom he lives with) and its been awkward for him, and that i better let him back in coz otherwise hell have to find someone else to move in with and that would make it really hard for him. does anyone else find this laughable? im not even surprised really- he's been here before, thus the living arrangements and he's a peter pan- 37 but still doesnt want to grow up, even funnier is that im only 22 and i seem to have WAY more sense than him. he seriously needs help but refuses to get it! GRRRRRRRRR sorry just had to get that out!
FM-Fragrances-Australia-World replied:
Goodness, i send fairy dust while protecting my balls heheh
Rich xoxoox
Follow-Your-LR-Dream replied:
Hollie my darling,
You are a much better woman than me...that's one
thing i would NEVER Tolerate, i would have kicked him out
for good a long time ago!!
Esther – Partner ID: 30 / 19737
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LYFwebdesigns replied:
I agree with Esther I would have done the same. Best wishes for your relationship, whether a friendship or other status.
Remember your innocent, smile and keep your head up high darl!
Michelle Partner ID: 30-32854
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SexxxyThingz replied:
Hollie, I am so sorry you are going through this. Very diffucult for you with the young kiddies.
A psychologist may help you here......Figure out why you are with an old fart who cheats and what pay back you get from this and why you choose to stand by this man?
From your post hes still in the running to become father of the year. All the best with trying to change the unchangeable
And yes he sounds like a dick sadly for you
Goodluck Holly and I hope things work out the way you want them to but I suggest you run
Tania replied:
Hi Hollie,
I am sorry about your predicament. You are very forgiving!
My husband knows if he ever does the dirty on me, off with his manhood! and he will never set foot in our home again. And that is what I expect he would do to me too (except no manhood to come off!!) Without trust there is no relationship! It is difficult with children involved, but if he comes back, what lessons are you teaching your young ones, that it is OK not to be honest?
Saying all that, Love does strange things. I have one question for you and if you can answer within 1/2 second with a yes - then you have a hard time ahead sorting it out. If you take time to think about it - go it alone.
The Question - Are You In Love With Him?
Goodluck
Tania
biancaj replied:
Sorry to hear it hollie.
Did I read that right... he wants to move back in with you because he has been sleeping with someone else?????? WTF????
I agree with Tania... do you love him? If you do, you will find a way to work things out.
What a horrible situation to be in... Hugs xxx
hollie8452 replied:
hi thanks everyone for all the advice and sympathy. unfortunately i do still love him (which really sucks and feels like a curse more than anything) but we will NOT be getting back together again. i know that he seriously needs to get some sort of professional help and if i let him back into my life he will never get it, tough love i suppose. i know that ill be fine and the girls will benefit from having a mother who is able to give them a more calm and stable home.
jinny replied:
Hollie,
Reading your post felt like dejavu to me. I was in your position 4 years ago, almost the same situation and my biggest advice is DONT ever take him back. He obviously does not love you - and sounds like he has moved on with his life.
Perhaps you should just look forward and move on with yours.
My only hope for you is that he does the right thing for the children and helps you out financially - does he?
My ex did not ever help me out with anything - once we broke up he went his way and i went mine. He still sees the kids every month but has only provided financial support of $6 WEEK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Plus he also left me with over $30000 dollars of debt - and sold pretty much all my possesions before i could get them all after i left.
I hope your not in that sort of situation.
Jinny xx
FM-Fragrances-Australia-World replied:
Just sent mine packing
enough said
Oh adding now I need a new gardener
Rich xoxoxoxoxoxoxoox
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12006520
Ladywytch replied:
Hollie,
Please ask yourself these 2 short questions.
Do I respect him?
Do I trust him?
If you answered no to either or heaven help, both you can not possibly love this man. You have history and are comfortable with him but love can never be present without trust and respect and he obviously doesn't respect you if he has been sleeping with someone else.
And my darling girl, there are plenty of young, gorgeous creatures out there that would jump through hoops for you and treat you decently just take a good look around.
M
StampinUp replied:
Send one to Hollie, then one to me! Oh, and one for Richard too!
he he! Lavina
FM-Fragrances-Australia-World replied:
Make sure mine knows how to attend to my garden :)
Rich xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
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12006520
Ladywytch replied:
Is that what they call it these days ...
... hmmmmm gardening.
FM-Fragrances-Australia-World replied:
BAAAhahahahahahahahahahahha lol
cheeky girl
ROFL
Rich xoxoxoxooxoxox
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12006520
PrincessLauren replied:
I feel for you hollie im going through the ups and downs of a ex who 1 day wants to be with you the next they want to be with other people they want the best of both worlds. But you put kids in the mix and it makes it so much harder to break up for good. this has been going on for 2 and half years for me and its so hard and painful at times. But he did leave me when i was pregnant with our 2nd child that we planned when i was 5mnths so he could sleep around. i think even in the future i will never trust a guy fully again to this day its something i cant move from.
so not like me to spill this to ppl i dnt really know lol
StampinUp replied:
Sweetie! Do yourself a favour! Ditch the Skanky hoe! (sorry, but this is the only term to describe someone sleeping around!)
He wants his cake and eat it too! Comfort and security of you, with the excitement and allure of others' beds! Don't let him! He's not going to change - it's been 2 1/2 YEARS!
Make yourself happy - and you can't do that with him being in the picture stuffing things up, and pulling on your heart strings.
No Trust = No Future.
Lavina
Ladywytch replied:
I agree with Lavina - these guys will never change.
A leopard never changes his spots - just gets better at camoflauge.
Once a whore always a whore - where it be a she-whore or a he-whore (and honestly some of these guys are complete jackasses.
These guys don't respect you girls, if they did they wouldn't be sleeping around.
I know it is so hard to bring yourself up to the stage of ditching them but for your own sake DO IT.
Just something to consider - do any of you have daughters, if so would you like someone to treat them this way. By letting this happen you are teaching them that this treatment is OK. Do you really want them to repeat your life or be confident happy young woman that know when to draw the line, if the answer the latter start teaching them how to do it.
M
hollie8452 replied:
thats exactly what ive been thinking about lady, i have two daughters and i would hate for either of them t turn out to be the doormat that i have been for the past few years. i am now completely single and am not under any circumstances willing to contemplate getting back together, after a few weeks of ups and downs im finally feeling really happy with this decision, and optimistic about the future. and jinny yes he is supporting the kids financially, i have made him sign an agreement saying that he will be responsible for all their schooling and medical/dental costs as well as child support payments. i am going to add that he did this willingly because he does love his children (i have never questioned that) its just me he didnt have any respect for. we still go to swimming lessons with the kids once a week but other than that the only contact we are having is a hi/bye at the fence with the kids.
SexxxyThingz replied:
Good for you for empowering yourself. You deserve so much better.
XXX Richy
JB replied:
Hollie,
Well done!!!
You have made the right decision for yourself & your girls.
You deserve better & you will meet someone who loves & respects you,
probably when you least expect it!
Warm wishes
Jane