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plainjayne wrote:
Well, obviously there has been much discussion about people and their posts in the site latley. To be honest I have had people saying a lot about my part in the whole scenario. Some are ok, some are not ok with it. I have been called argumentative and even accused of being disrespectful and ungrateful to those people trying to help me with some dodgy PP's.
I respect anyone trying to help others if it means that they ensure that others don't come to grief over dishonest people. And maybe I can help others if ever I come across information that might prevent another member being used and abused. I am not so cold hearted as to knowingly allow that to happen.
My part in the whole topic was to merely express concern over the way in which comments could be taken and that there can be a better way to get ones message out there. Unfortunatley for me, I ended up being one of the people I was referring to after my temper got the better of me. And now it would seem that it was pretty pointless even saying anything as it is all gone.
It just makes me wonder whether I should post or not. If I say something that ruffles someones feathers am I going to cop flak again?? Or if I don't say anything am I going to be seen as not interested? Or not courageous enough to challenge anyone now?
In the end all I can do is wait and see really. But I just wanted to say that I am not a bad person or seeking out members to have a "go" at them. I am not ungrateful for advice thrown my way. And if I argue a point it is because I am not entirely convinced I agree. It is an opinion that is all.
I just wanted to get that out there.
Lilygirl_wytch replied:
Dear miss Plainjayne,
Please don't think for one minute that everyone on here thinks that you are argumentative, ungrateful or disrespectful to the PP members on here. I've read all your posts and quite frankly ladies I don't see where she was deliberately berating anyone, only sticking up for herself after she was attatcked because she wanted to have her say.
Just because Plainjayne gave her opinion on another person's topic, I can't help but fell many people jumped the gun and assumed the worst. Totally unnecessary.
I am sorry your experience with this forum has upset you so much, but truly hope you will reconsider, and not prejudge and enjoy your PP journey. Sometimes we come across people just like ourselves, and we don't always like what we hear or see. What does this tell us about ourselves?
Come everyone, it's time to forgive and play nice. After all it we will meet each other one day, and it would be nice to know we are not still in High School, arguing anymore.
But please note, if I get attacked by others on here for simply trying to smooth the waters and show kindness to other PP members I WILL BE ANNOYED
What is the old saying ? Ah yes -... Never assume anything as it makes an ASS out of U and ME.
Keep smiling plainjayne, and enjoy posting and chatting to everyone on here as there is heaps of help, hints and tips to get you started on your party plan business.
Blessings
Lilygirl
partyplans replied:
It is better to post and have your say!
In the very end, we will remove posts / topics that could reflect badly on our site and the community - but not before we have allowed time for everyone to have their final say on the topic before we "close the chapter".
We just like to keep a tidy ship and very rarely does someone have to 'walk the plank' (...although we have even been offered tempting sums of money to push some members overboard !!)
$$$
FoodDude replied:
Not to anyone in particular......but a great thing to do is to in your anger/annoyance, don't post straight away. get your thoughts together, put them down on paper/on your computer and read them to yourself. How do your comments make you feel ? How would they make someone else feel ? Would you be better off screwing up the paper/deleting the words from your computer and saying nothing ? Sometimes saying nothing can be more powerful...... in any case choose your words carefully.... you are an adult ad no matter how low others sink, you don't need to sink to their level. You never know the person that you berate, may one day be your customer................
Ladywytch replied:
I think the thing is not to take anything personally. Isn't that what we are taught as party planners. Party Plan 101 don't take it personally. Rejection, abuse anything.
Sure voice your opinion, sound off, but let others do the same but hell if everyone thought the same way it would be a bloody boring world and frightening to boot because we'd all be programmed.
If things get heated, don't read anymore, move on or take time out and don't come back for a day or so. Your worst enemy here may end up yes, your best customer somewhere down the line, but maybe even your best friend too - stranger things have happened.
I have never yet read outright personal abuse and attacks at anyone. I hope it never happens.
Sometimes, people cross our paths that we take an instant liking to and there are others that you could hit with a wet fish the moment you meet them that doesn't mean that their right to be present isn't as valid as yours or mine.
There are a couple of wonderful pieces of advice previous to this post but the most important for this and any forum is to have fun. This place is to let off steam to vent to ask advise of others in just our situation and to get to know people other than those in our own party plans that we see at every meeting.
Love and Light
M
plainjayne replied:
Thanks everyone!!