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Holiday plans gone wrong
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celebratecandles wrote:
My partner and I had organized to go away this week. Nothing flash just some time away relaxing as we haven’t been on a holiday in years.
Things were all worked out and then over the last few days everything has fallen apart. My partner’s father has been admitted to hospital (nothing serious) but my partner’s mother was going to dog sit our puppies and feed our rabbits but with her husband in hospital we feel it would be too much for her to worry about our animals as well. My Mum was wanting to come stay but my sister is also going into hospital this week and mum needs to be there for my sister and her family so that wont work either, so then I contacted a friend who said she weeks ago I should leave the dogs with her but things have changed and she can’t have them either. So what started out as a great idea and weeks of planning all fall apart within hours. I feel every sorry for my partner he never has time off and he was so excited to be going away finally.
I’m not sure how to tell our parent’s that we have decided not to go away I know both our mum’s will feel bad and feel like they have let us down which is not the case at all thing’s happen but just at this point I can’t really see any way that we can go.
Just to explain my father in law and sister are both ok, they are both having minor operations and both had told us not to delay our plans and we would have only been a few hours away just incase something happened and we needed to come home.
Sorry I just needed to get that off my chest. It’s really got me down today.
Felicity
biancaj replied:
Oh dear. You guys must feel terrible! I know how hard it is to plan things just for them to fall through at the last minute.
Are there any house sitters in the area that you could use?
I hope that its all a blessing in disguise and you both have a great time lazing around the house for a week. Stay in your PJ's for two days straight, don't do any housework, and order takeaway every day. Make the time about being together, not about going away somewhere. Because even staying home is special if you are doing it together.
LiLTam replied:
Personally I would want to put my holidays on hold until I know for sure these minor ops have gone ok and be there to lend a hand if needed. I understand your disappointment but perhaps the timing for this just isnt right at the moment. Are you able to postpone it until after these ops and things are more normal? Sorry JMO but going away at this time would be the last thing on my mind.
Tam
Ladywytch replied:
OMG what a blow.
But make the most of a bad situation.
Turn the phones off enjoy each other, go for little day trips and as you would probably be going to resturants while away, now is the time to check out some of the local places you've been wanting to try for ages. Now the whole thing is a holiday so wear the clothes that you would wear away - always alot dressier than at home - even when going for a coffee at a shopping center. Spend no more time at home than necessary it is amazing what you find when you commit to doing nothing at all except explore.
Ok so it isn't the same but you save on hotels and petrol and, and, and... but do not fall into being available for anyone but your partner or animals. The pets get looked after and you still get a sort of holiday - it just takes commitment to saying NO to everyone else (except in absolute emergencies)and dedicating this week to each other.
I am sure you can do it.
Happy Holidays,
M
celebratecandles replied:
Thanks for everyone’s reply, We are making the most of things. I was disappointed that we were unable to go away but I was also feeling guilty for not putting our plans on hold for our families. Now that we are staying our parents feel guilty that we are staying which I knew would happen. I think it all just got to me that day when all our months of planning all fell apart so quickly and knowing how our mother’s would react being unable to help. You know how mother’s are wanting what’s best for their child and both mothers knew how much Adam really needed a break from everything. So day trips are sounding good and that way we are still close to our families.