What do I do?

clarebear1983 replied:

Today a girl joined Nutrimetics.  She is my friends friend but she joined under me even though my friend is also in the business.  This is because my upline felt that I am in a better position to support this new girl due to my other friend being a catalogue consultant and this girl wanting to be a spa consultant.  My upline offered my friend a $50 voucher instead.

What you should do is talk to Jenny and explain the situation and maybe offer her something to soften the blow a bit???? My upline said its important to have this conversation with the person it will directly affect.

noone replied:

What a tricky situation you find yourself in Marina.  I have been in Jenny's position where a recruit has expressed interest in signing up under someone else and it is very difficult for all involved. 

I have no useful advice at the moment, other than I hope it all works out.  Perhaps talking with Sharon about the reasons why she does not want to sign up under Jenny might shed some light on how to deal with the issue.

Good luck!

kathymollie replied:

Oh Marina.........this is indeed a tricky one.....In my opinion Sharon most likely needs to join under Jenny as she was Jennys' hostess....but Sharon may have her reasons why she doesnt want to do that...who knows....very tricky...
Now having said that...you can always "handball" her over to me and neither of you   sign her up...(HA HA>>>>LOL)I shall take her...Wa La...Solution.................!!!!!

PerfumePrincess replied:

Hi Marina.........I have no advice either ....but your friend would be upset if she knew as this is what the good part about 5th Ave is you get people under you as soon as you can so she might be miffed.
Hope it all works out for the best
Shaz x

CKCath replied:

I would have two questions for you (or anyone else in this situation)

1. Have you asked her friend why she has asked you about the business rather than Jenny? She may have good reasons to be talking to you instead of Jenny.

2. Have you talked to Jenny about recruiting, is she ready to recruit? Is there a chance she is worried that she can't offer the support level she feels her friend deserves. If this is the case you may be able to offer to help her support her first recruit!

marina replied:

For me it does not matter as she will still be my 2nd line and I treat all the girls equally.

I am going to have a good chat with her tomorrow and I know ethically the right thing to do is for Sharon to go under Jenny.  I will see what happens..

I mean Jenny is so excited about the business and of course she would love to join up her first recruit asap.  I really have to find out the reason.. and then try and work it out amicably to please everyone so no one gets hurt.

thanks

Snazza replied:

Perhaps the friend is wanting to join under you Marina because she was impressed with you and felt you have more experience - perhaps she hasnt clearly thought of how this would effect her friend?

Many Many millions of moons ago I was with a scrapbooking company. I was invited to a home class by my neighbour and as i was new to the area i went along and loved it. Within a week i had signed up and became a consultant. My neighbour was full on into it and was very clever. Eventually she decided to join up under me as she knew me better etc. Things went from bad to worse as I was still very green learning myself and she already had years of experience behind her. She ended up bypassing me altogether and requested to be bumped up to the person i signed under. This caused a huge rift between us and to this day we dont speak. I could never understand why she signed under me in the first place when she knew i was only learning.

So perhaps the friend is looking to stick with someone that she feels has good leadership and can look up to. Just a thought. Good Luck

Snazza

jenlerose replied:

Honesty is always the best policy.  Talk to them both.  You know, usually its something as simple as maybe she didn't realise Jenny didn't recruit or she thinks she doesn't want to yet!  It will work out!  You will see!  

Have a great day!

Jen

ExMember148 replied:

My own personal experience with this was when I first ventured into the world of pp.  I had been going to my mums plastic container parties for years.  And the consultant always said you have to join blah blah, and I always promised her when I was ready I WOULD join under her.  She was never pushy and I LOVED that about her.

A few years later, I got a phone call out of the blue from the plastic container company doing the big recruiting speil, so I gave in, and met with them.   I said at that meeting is "XXXX" still a manager as I would really prefer to be in her team.  The distributor emphatically told me NO she hasn't done it for years, which was strange for me to hear.  Even though I hadn't been in touch with her, she was still my plastics lady!!!

So I succumbed, joined under her recommended leader and went to my first rally!!!  When my friend saw me she was like, what are you doing here???  I told her the story.  Needless to sayu neither of us was happy with the underhandedness of the distributor.  It certainly soured my experience with them. 

Moral of story - honesty pays, be upfront always.  I know Marina will do the right thing here, she just had to hear herself talk the situation through, as this sometimes helps!!As for Kathy!!  Yeah girl !!  You go team - a born pper if ever I saw one!!!

sanctuary replied:

I agree with the general consensus - that open communication is usually the best way to sort these situations out - Good Luck Marina - let us all know how you go with it!

kathymollie replied:

LOL......Thanks Hush, Hush.....(can't blame a girl for trying)...............

Cheers...Kath

marina replied:

I spoke with Sharon today as I had to do a drop off for a special watch she ordered.

She has done party plan before and wants to join definitely.. I asked her straight out why she does not want to join with  Jenny.

It is because Jenny just joined and is new and therefore she is afraid  she will  not  get any help from Jenny and she wants help from me.

I said to her that this is incorrect.. You are still my 2nd line and i will even go with  you to your first show as Jenny is also only  new  and i will go to Jennys first show as well...... Basically i said to her that she is still in my downline and I will be there for her as equally as I am with Jenny.

She was so happy and now Jenny will have her first jeweller very soon.

All is ok. Thanks for your help...

ExMember148 replied:

Win Win situation - and why wouldn't you want some one like Marina guiding you???

Snazza replied:

Yes!! See I was right WOW!! It was just so similar to my situation i had been in and it does just make sense to want to have someone as experienced as Marina guiding you. But I am so glad it worked out for all concerned and that Jenny wont feel as I had felt.....as its not a nice feeling at all.

Infact more uplines should have this approach as at the end of the day you are all batting on the same side.

Well done in sorting this out to everyones favor.

Snazza

marina replied:

Snazza I am not sure why a lot of uplines do not see it this way.

 I honestly would not be where i am today ( as far as bonus cheques are concerned ) if it was not for my downline. they are my strength and what keeps my team growing.

Our 4th line makes my 3rd line strong and the 3rd line makes the  2nd line strong and this put together  makes my whole team stronger and is what keeps the bonus cheques growing...i cannot be successful on my own.

For me now it is not about the money anymore ( and for a long time it was ) My team is now strong enough on its own, and it keeps growing without a lot of work so the money part of it will always be here now.

For me now,  it is seeing the success of our girls, the happiness it creates and the postiveness we have with them. I do not want anyone in my team unhappy and as i am still new to all this and never been in this situation before I had to seek advice.. 

Thanks again everyone.

CKCath replied:

I am glad everything worked out for all of you Marina. i am sure that both Jenny and Sharon will do very well in their new roles with you to guide them along their way.

kathymollie replied:

Well done Marina for sorting out the dileema..............
Another great achievement...
Cheers...............