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Just not treating him right!
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noone wrote:
Sorry I have to get this off my chest....
My husband works for a small business delivering furniture. He works any/all overtime that he is able to and tries to generally be an asset to the business. Lately though his workmates have started treating him like a joke (eg he told his supervisor the delivery van had bald tyres and was overdue for servicing, the supervisor and a sales rep laughed at him) and he has just rung me to say that I need to pick him up - the boss doesn't want him taking the company vehicle home anymore. The excuse is: oh we don't want it going so far out of town - hello? The alternative is leaving it overnight in an unsavoury neighbourhood and the "favourite" employee only lives 8 minutes closer to town than us and gets a van to take home. So it means that now Cameron and I are going to be stranded at home again all day everyday unless I can get all three of us ready to leave the house by 7.30 and any mum can tell you (if you don't know yourself) that some mornings that is impossible. My uni exams start next week and now that we've only got our car, one morning we are going to have to drive for 70 mins to get me to my exam (be there by 7.45) and then he has to drive 20 mins back into town to go to work.
He is feeling so dejected and I'm so angry I don't think I can go into that office, I'm likely to say something I will definitely regret. He hasn't got many formal qualifications so is studying a uni degree FULL TIME externally to try and get a better job, but in the mean time can't get anything better. We are living close to the poverty line and struggling on one wage in a job that there is no scope for progression for him. He's been there for 2 1/2 years and someone who has only been there 6 months has already been promoted over him, and newcomers are STARTING OUT on what Kev is on now.
I'm half considering telling him to stay home and care for Cameron and fast-track his study and I go back to work (I should have my degree studies completed in 2 1/2 weeks), only thing is we were planning another baby soon so that idea would be out the window. I can tell he's really upset today from the phone call, and I'm spitting chips.
I know any job is better than no job, but still, a little courtesy towards employees would go a long way. These men Kev works with never think about how their actions affect anyone else, do you think they have considered the fact that by making Kev take the car to work he is leaving his wife and son stranded 20 mins out of town?
I'm sorry for the downer, I'm just so upset and angry today and haven't got anyone to spill to. Thank you for reading, I feel a little better.
mumofangels replied:
Hi Lauren, this is not fair on your hubby or on you- is there a union or any way her can talk to the boss, otherwise he may be better off in a new job, the stress is not fair for all.
keep your chin up.hugs and more hugs for you
chat soon
irene
ExMember148 replied:
I would definitely be registering on SEEK. There are other jobs out there, just look. Someone somewhere will appreciate his hardwork, loyalty and dedication.
princess replied:
Hi, I know how you feel,
I have 4 kids under 5 and I don't drive and the main shopping centre is about 10 min away by car but takes about and 1hr and a half to walk.
I get on the bus with the kids with much trouble, I used to think one was hard but u manage.
I am starting my own business on Budgeting on one income if you want some advice let me know.
from Jodie
marina replied:
Hi
You have the power to change your life and you are looking at it right here.
Party plan. Think of it as a serious business and I guarantee your fortunes will change.
My husband is heavily involved in party plan, your husband can do the same. Just to let you know couples in party plan work really really well together. The support is amazing and the rewards are huge.
I will not go into detail the hardships we have endured, but thanks to party plan our life has changed unbelievably.
The number one way to get rich is party plan and you will get freedom of time which is so important. Who wants to be working 50 hours a week....for a wage.
Work the business and you will reap the rewards of passive income.
Forget about accounting qualifications ( i have them- got me nowhere) . We used to work 2 jobs each to make ends meet. Forget about loyalty in a job . My husband has been made redundant twice and i remember both times crying. Loyalty in the work place does not exist anymore.
I remember when i was working my 2nd job with a major bank . After my maternity leave was over i was to resume my normal hours, but they forced me to do the graveyard shift. I had no rights and was heavily stressed about it. I had to go to the tribunal and fight my case. All in the meantime I was not working as i refused to work the graveyard shift. My case took a year to settle and it was the worst period of my life. But I won!!! So much for all the overtime i put in, I hardly took any sick days , worked up until i was 38 weeks pregnant.
Again look at party plan as a career and not a hobby and you will go far....................
Change your perspective of party plans. It is really serious stuff and you can make it work together.
Kelly replied:
Both Marina and Julie have given you some excellent advice. The stress you are currently under is detrimental in several ways - self confidence and health-wise. Nobody needs that and noone has the right to make either of you feel that way.
I wish you both the very best and hope that this situation is resolved quickly.
noone replied:
Thank you everyone for all your advice and help. We are going to investigate a few different paths and see where we end up. The stress, as some of you said, is not doing either of us any good so we're going to act now. While I can't see him joining me in PP (at the moment anyway) a change of pace might be just what he needs.
Thank you again everyone for listening and for your advice - hugs to you all!!!!
kathymollie replied:
Take back the power and YOU will be the winner no one else...
We all have stressors to endure in life...but only we are responsible for our own destiny.,...
BELIEVE and you will achieve all that you want....
Good Luck ,...
cheers...Kathy