How to get your partner/husband to support you?

PersonalisedCelebrationCandles replied:

Hi

I had the same thing with my hubby when I started the Persoanlised Candles. I think most men think that doing party plan and anything that involves work from home, isn't really working.......but as soon as they see the orders coming in and some extra cash, then they do change their minds, but it does take time.

It was about a year in to my business before my hubby started taking interest.

Hang in and don't let him make you doubt yourself..(thats what I did at first)........keep going

sometimes, we have to do things by ourselves....but thats because we can....we are strong women and we never give up...thats why we live longer too. We can handle almost anything....thats why we are the ones that have the babies.

Keep up your good work...be confident in yourself and you will win through...Oh and chocolate helps too

Take care

www.candles4keeps.com.au

Ann

Kirstin replied:

The only way I have earnt my husband's grudging acceptance of my work is by:

1. Organising my bookings so they do not impact on family life (for this reason I do very few things on weekends)

2. Giving him prior notice of all my bookings so that he doesn't feel 'ambushed' when he has to do the childcare.

3. Talking through logistics of car use (we are a one car family, so if I am using the car, he is stuck at home with the kids). Sometimes he drives me to and from appointments so he can use the car whilst I am doing a party or market.

4. This is the important one! Proving that it is financially worthwhile by earning real money. He still says it is not a good use of my time, but is willing to admit that I am turning a profit and enjoying myself.

I wouldn't say he is supportive, but he is willing to work with me because he knows it is something I love doing and he wants me to be happy.

Kirstin xxx

Guy replied:

During my 20yrs experience in the industry, I have seen this time and time again. If you're only looking to earn a little extra or try and replace one income then it's not that critical if he doesn't become involved as long as he is supportive and understands the reasons why you are wanting to do what you are doing, whether it's to feel more independent by earning your own money, a feeling of achievement by building your own business etc, etc. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him, so he can understand your motivation, goals and desires and have a clear understanding on what you're trying to achieve and what advantages the business can/will bring you and the the family as a whole. If he knows how important it is to you, then he should support you.

On the other hand, if you're looking to build a serious business that has the potential to secure your family's financial independence and freedom, then you need to be looking for a business and a business model that can involve both of you, as he needs to be involved, as it wont work without him, many have tried and failed due to this single point, whether it was their business failing or their marriage.

By having a common goal that both of you are working towards, helps your business and can even improve your relationship with one another as you both end up having a better understanding of each other, were you end up growing as a couple in addition to the business.

Well, that's what I and many of my married friends who have successful businesses, believe.

Kind Regards,

Guy- Lifestyle Trainer

Business Development & Support Group

www.lifestyletrainersbdsg.net.au

LYFwebdesigns replied:

I am fortunate my hubby loves me and my business. He is part of my team and always has been since realising this industry does make you a great income and a bundle of rewards. In saying that though, he is still on salary with a firm.
Michelle xx

Bekiucw replied:

hello.

im , pretty lucky there too, my hubby drives me to my parties as he sometimes likes to make an apperance too just incase you get customers that try to rip you off or steal things from you. so i make it up to him  buy taking him out to dinner or a cd. some times hes a bit annoyed that all my time goes into my business but we make it work. i tell him that its not just me making all this, but we are a Team....plus he gets some time to spend on his own too.

xoxox

FM-Fragrances-Australia-World replied:

Earn more than your hubby by doing less - it can be done!! I know ladies doing it right now, that along with a lot of work of adapting his mindset, does work.

Also depends on HOW much you really want to do what your doing, some ladies I know, and I am thinking of one atm, will do what it takes to shit on her husbands income, and is doing so as we speak.

He works 5 days, she works 2, and now he gets to go on FREE trips... So HOW bad do you want it, and are you prepared for the ( Years, yes years) of non support until the assimilation is complete?????

I am soooooooooooooooooo lucky! as I am not married ( as in partner ) and they would have to accept what I do, or they don't get a look in :)

Rich xo

www.wickedfragrances.com

Sponsor Number

12006520

P.s cheeky flog... hubbies can sell perfume, some PP things are just to girly for the man to even bother :)